People often think relationships are about 50/50 — two people meeting halfway. But life doesn’t work like that. Like driving, relationships are full of risks, blind spots, and sudden turns. And the truth is, one person can change the outcome.

If you’re driving and someone pulls out without looking, the law might blame them for the accident. But as any advanced driver knows, you could have seen it coming. You could have braked, adjusted, avoided the crash altogether. It doesn’t take two people to prevent an accident — it only takes one who’s aware, prepared, and willing to act.

That’s the heart of my coaching. You don’t have to wait for the other person to change before things can get better. When you take responsibility for your side — your awareness, your reactions, your choices — you shift the whole dynamic. And when you do, the people around you often begin to drive better too.

Where This Comes From

This isn’t just theory. My approach comes from three places that shaped me deeply:

• Fire Service Driving – as a firefighter, I trained to drive blue light appliances at the highest level. That meant carrying crews safely at speed, reading the road ahead, avoiding risks, and never putting others in danger. Every journey was about seeing further, acting sooner, and taking full responsibility.

• Parenting ADHD & Autism – raising a daughter with ADHD and autism taught me that you can’t control every behaviour, but you can change the way you respond. By adjusting my awareness and reactions, I learned how to bring calm, connection, and trust to situations that once felt impossible.

• Relationship Experience – I’ve lived through the pain of broken trust, avoidant patterns, and emotional overwhelm. I know how hard it is to feel stuck. But I also know the freedom that comes when one person learns how to steer differently.

The RoMo Method

My coaching is built around three steps:

1. Risk Awareness – seeing the patterns, blind spots, and behaviours that keep repeating.

2. Risk Acceptance – facing reality honestly, without denial or blame.

3. Risk Assent – making conscious, committed choices that avoid collisions and create safer, calmer connections.

This method works in relationships, attachment styles, ADHD, and family life. Because change doesn’t start with “both of you” — it starts with you.